Good morning my fearless Shallengers!
This was a busy week! I had a lot of work and auditions filling up my days (which is always a good thing,) but it left little time for me to squeeze in my Shallenges.
Although it doesn’t feel like I did a lot, there were some really amazing moments this past week. Here’s how I faired:
1. Experience something new.
9/13 Go to a Browns game NOT at Browns Stadium
Week One of the NFL regular season started this week! YAY FOOTBALL!
Several weeks ago, me and my fellow Cleveland-to-NYC transplants, bought tickets for the Browns/Jets game. Forecast said rain, but the day turned out to be beautiful, and it only started raining once the game was over.
I must say, it was heartbreaking to see my Brownies lose a game they were favored to win, but I had the best time making the voyage to MetLife stadium for the first time, tailgating, and then getting to see a live NFL game (which I haven’t done since about 2012).
2. Go somewhere in New York City that I haven’t been before.
9/13 MetLife Stadium
Heading to New Jersey on a Sunday morning at 9 am is not exactly the most exciting thing to do on your Sunday morning, but by the time I got there, I was so happy to be surrounded by fellow Clevelanders that it made the smelly bus ride from the disaster that is New York City Port Authority totally worth it!
This was the view from my seats. I would say it was worth it! 🙂
3. Do something alone that I would normally do with others.
This week I was surrounded by friends pretty consistently. My partner in crime, Jennifer, was by my side for a lot of it.
Nothing this week sticks out that I did particularly alone that I would normally do with others.
4. Say “yes” to something to which I would typically say “no.”
9/14 Saying yes to a drinks date
I told myself that I would no longer allow myself to go on dates with men who wanted to get “drinks.” My generation has become so lackadaisical and unoriginal when it comes to dating, that I haven’t been asked on a real date in some time.
But the other night, I was asked out to drinks with a seemingly nice guy.
The date was a disaster. The guy begged me to meet up with him after I had worked a 14 hour day and then went on a four-mile run. And yet I obliged, packed my set bag for the following early morning call time, showered, and showed up in a cute, funky outfit to my local watering hole.
The entire date consisted of him cutting me off mid-sentence, talking about himself non-stop, and never asking me any questions about my life. Then, as I was about to order a second drink, hoping that he was just nervous, he takes out his phone and says, “I’m going to meet my friends at the Standard Hotel, so I gotta run.”
REALLY!? After you begged me to meet you, knowing I had just had a long day, you’re going to walk out on me!?
I’m not going to lie, it was a little blow to my self esteem. Hence why I gave myself the rule of no longer agreeing to “drinks.”
The next night I was supposed to go on a real date with another guy, who had set up drinks and a movie with me. (We both bonded earlier in the week for our love of horror flicks, and were planning on seeing The Visit). And right as I thought I was going to be wrapped from set, so that I could go on my real date, the PA picks me and four others to stay and extra two hours on set, and I had to cancel.
Just my luck.
5. Do something that scares me.
9/12 Music Video Release Party
On Saturday, I invited all my best New Yorkers to a music video release and live performance. I’m always nervous whenever I have an event, because I really never know who will actually show up versus who says they will show up.
I was floored when I ended up packing the basement of the bar! Not only did my friends show up in droves, but most of them brought friends! I felt so loved and appreciated as an artist like I never have before.
After the music video premiered, as well as after my live performance, I had many people who were not associated with me or my friends tell me how impressed they were with the video and my performance.
It was one of those nights where I looked around and thought, “Is this really my life!?” I’m constantly getting rejected in my industry, that sometimes it catches me by surprise when I remember that I am actually talented, and people really do love and appreciate my artistry.
You can see a video of the live performance by hitting up my Facebook Page. (You can also give me a “like” while you’re there!)
And in case you missed it, here’s the video!
6. Make a new friend.
9/12 Music Video Release Party
As I said above, I was floored that so many people showed up. I got to meet so many new people, and connect with other creatives as well. I even got asked to collaborate at a SOHO art show. That night reminded me of why I love New York City.
9/13 Browns Tailgating
Oh Cleveland. No matter how many years it’s been since I’ve left my hometown, I will always carry Cleveland around in my heart. The best thing about being from Northeastern Ohio, is that whenever you meet someone else from Northeastern Ohio, you immediately become best friends.
At the tailgate I met two twins who were delightful! I told them to go to Twins Days! 🙂
All of the Browns Backers also took a picture before heading to the stadium. I love these crazy kids. I’m so happy to be a part of this fanbase.
7. Have a book of the Week
Sophie’s World by Jostein Gaarder
I know that this was my book of the week last week, but I finally finished it. What I didn’t realize when I was at the midway point last week, is that the book would take an extremely meta turn, and blow my mind apart. Talk about spinning my brain around in circles!
If you want to question your entire existence, and perhaps throw in a little bit of existential dread into your life, I suggest reading about 20 different philosophers in the span of one book. It will fuck you up.
8. Purge the unnecessary.
I’m convinced that Dante left the ring of hell in his Divine Comedy reserved for people who post negative comments on YouTube. What in the world would possess a human being to post something mean on someone’s video when you know nothing about them?? It is just beyond me.
I don’t want to get on my soap box about how we are all becoming so bold and mean behind the screens of our computers, iPads, and phones, but it is seriously fucked up how callous people can be in regards to others’ feelings when on the internet.
One particular YouTuber recently posted mean things on my video, and I responded back with a kind message, asking that he please consider being nicer to people before commenting on anyone’s page. He responded like only a troll would… with more negativity.
So I not only deleted his message, but I blocked him from my page, and flagged his page 10 times for various offenses.
Don’t fuck with me. I may not fight you with more unnecessary unkindness, but that doesn’t mean I won’t get your ass kicked off the internet.
9. Do something that makes me feel beautiful.
Getting back into running
I know that a few weeks ago I was on my 10k training. Well, that got derailed when it got so damn hot that I couldn’t even run in the evening because the weather was so intense. I threw myself into cycling and cross training for the past few weeks in lieu of running.
I’m happy to report that this week it has been so beautiful out, that the other day (after not running outside for about two weeks,) I was able to complete 4 miles like it was nothing!
The next day my legs were sore and I know that I worked out some leg muscles that definitely needed to be flexed.
10. Surround myself with nature.
9/9 Spend a day off laying around in a park
Jen and I ventured to the West Side Highway park to lay out, do backbends, and handstands.
It was a good day. 🙂
Shallenges Completed: 9/10
Shan Baby Score: 8/10
I only knocked myself down a point because going to the Browns game accounted for a few of the Shallenges. Overall, it was a successful week!
And here’s my Shan Baby Happy Face of the Week: