I was texting a good friend of mine the other day and our conversation went something like this:
Him: “Yeah, I really like this girl. I don’t think she’s interested. She can’t return my texts, but she sure can post on Instagram.
Me: “I don’t understand why she can’t just answer a text. Or tell you she’s not interested. Have some courtesy.”
Him: “I’m tired of playing this game.”
Me: “Me too. Maybe I should just become a nun.”
And here we have: The Game
It’s the same story with most 20-somethings.
There is a girl. There is a boy. Sometimes there are two boys. Sometimes there are two girls. Whatever the scenario, it’s always the same: How do I play this game so that he/she will like me?
I can’t even begin to tell you how frustrating it is to date in 2014. Those of you who are single; I’m sure you feel my pain. For those of you who are taken, fuck you.
I jest, I jest.
But seriously though… fuck you.
I can’t wrap my brain around the idea of “The Game.” The last relationship I was in started way back in 2009, and it went something like this:
Him: “Hey, I like you!”
Me: “I like you too!”
Him: “Wanna be my girlfriend.”
There was none of this let-me-text-you-cryptic-messages-that-I-need-a-fucking-Rosetta-Stone-to-decipher bullshit. None of the how-long-do-I-wait-to-text-him-back questions. None of the well-we-are-kind-of-seeing-each-other-but-we’ve-never-really-discussed-specifics ambiguity.
Now, you’ve all heard me complain about my general dislike for the way my generation dates. If you haven’t, please read this little gem:
I feel like I’m absolutely in the minority of my generation when I say I wear my heart on my sleeve. My generation is all about the protection of oneself, and keeping options open, and a debilitating fear of commitment. And I’m not just generally making these statements. I’ve talked to SO many men and women in their 20s, and it’s all generally the same story, we are all trying to play “the game” with one another.
And you can literally plan a game, in the form of Tinder, that acts as a psedo dating/hookup site.
Fucking Millennials. (Hey! I’m allowed to hate on my own!)
I was talking to a co-worker today and I said something along the lines of, “I know this sounds stupid, but I really DO believe in love.”
And I do.
But love does not always love me in return, because I live in New York City in 2014, and love just doesn’t always happen that easily.
Right now a LOT of amazing things are happening in my life. I’m getting auditions for things, I’m making music, I’m more stable than I’ve ever been.
But then there’s this whole thing we call “dating” that always knocks me on my ass.
When I “date” I feel like I have to put a filter on myself, because people in my generation don’t like to communicate with one another. Dating is like a never ending Labyrinth of texting, and not telling the other person too much, and timing out when to text back, and using words like “casual” and “fun,” and always trying to be the one who cares less because that’s how you get the other person to care more.
And David Bowie makes NO cameo in this version of the Labyrinth… which means it BLOWS.
Side note: This
I digress. Back to “The Game.”
Basically, this endless cycle of fuckery drives me to drink.
And THEN because I feel like I have a sober filter on myself, everything just comes FLYING out of my body when I drink.
(Also… that last meme should NOT have an apostrophe after the Vodka. That indicates possession. Ughh… ecards, get it TOGETHER. )
So after all is said and done, love and feelings and emotions and being interested in another human being just becomes way too stressful for me.
I don’t even know if this post really has a point, other than I’m just tired of dating.